Friday, 8 February 2013

Is there an easy way to ask this question?

Was your baby planned?

The amount of times I have been asked this question in the last 17 week has blown my mind and to be honest I find it down right rude!

My first pregnancy was planned, 
This one however was one of the biggest shocks of my life, I don't regret it for even one second, though I do regret going out 2 nights before I found out.

With all the times I've been asked it got me thinking,
Is there a better way to ask a person this question or do you wait until they openly say something to you. 

The worst offender came up to me with "I heard you got yourself knocked up, again, I'm guessing it wasn't planned"
After I scraped myself up off the floor I replied with a simple "I guess I'm just very fertile"
What else do you say in that situation? Especially when its in a public place.
I went home that night and cried for over an hour with my husband fuming about how horrible someone could be.

I also receive the "I'm sorry but I have to ask, was this one planned? They are awfully close together"
Yes, they are close together but why does it even matter if we planned it?

I can't think of a nice way to even approach this subject if it was me asking someone else so for me I wouldn't, if they wanted to bring it up in conversation they would do so on their own account.

I believe I am a very open person but I think there are some questions that should only be asked by close family and if you want to share it then it's your own choice.


  1. Wow, people can be so rude. I don't think it is anybody's business whether your pregnancy was planned or not. Besides, some of the best moments in life are not planned. Have a great day!
    Angie G.

  2. Hi I'm following you via the fun Friday blog hop party. Wow, that seems like a pretty rude question to ask! I'd tell them to mind their own bleedin' business!

  3. i agree, its rude of a stranger to ask!
    i'm a new follower from the blog hop :)

  4. WOW. You have far more restraint than I do. If someone said to me "I guess this one wasn't planned" I would have slapped them across the face. Congratulations!

    I'm a new follower and found you on That Friday Blog Hop. Please checkout my blog:

  5. I don't even understand why people think it's their business whether your child was planned or not. My first wasn't planned and the amount of rude comments we got was astounding! It's really hard to reply back to such outright rudeness. I would never think to ask or say the stuff people ask!

    New follower topping by from the blog hop! :)

  6. Stopping over from Find and Follow! People really kill me with how brave they get with the things they say! I've never heard that exact comment, but have heard MANY times "You have one of each, time to stop now." Like its their choice how many kids I have! Ugh. But anyways -- looking forward to following! Hope you'll get a chance to stop by and check mine out as well!

  7. I'm always amazed at what people think they can just open their mouths and say. Congrats on the new baby! Found you through That Friday blog hop, Following you.

  8. Hi there! I'm a new follower from the blog hop and would love a follow back at and on Pinterest! I follow back all of my Pinterest followers :)

  9. beautiful blog. Your newest follower.


  10. Oh I would have been so angry. What makes them think it is any of their business. I would have been thinking, "Well... were you planned? I feel that all children are a gift from God, planned or unplanned, I am a happy Momma."

  11. Oh my gosh, I can't imagine ever asking anyone this question. I can't imagine why someone would think they need an answer to that.

    I am a new follower from the Meet & Greet Blog Hop. I look forward to reading your posts.


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